Been dating for 3 months now
If you're invited to a more intimate celebration, such as dinner at a restaurant with friends, don't feel obligated to attend.Of course, it's lovely if you do—but if you don't feel you're quite yet at the Birthday Dinner With Friends level yet, you can offer instead to take him or her out for a birthday drink on your own (possibly at a later date).You aren't that serious yet, so preferring to spend a birthday with friends is totally normal. Possibly, your date will mention a party or get-together to which you'll be invited.If you go, treat it as you would the birthday of a friend you very much like: bring a card, buy them drinks, etc.Sure, it's possible they're just not big birthday people, in which case it's perfectly fine to spend the day together without making a huge production out of the birthday.But beware of people who expect you to make big plans for their birthdays too early on in the relationship -- this screams high maintenance, and besides, don't they have friends to do this? If You've Been Dating Three Months or Fewer, Not Exclusively Same rules apply as above in terms of party behavior: if you go to a celebration, be prepared to buy drinks and go home together.This night is not about your burgeoning relationship.If your date doesn't have plans, you can offer to take him or her out for a birthday drink, but be wary of this.
Valentine’s Day is coming up and I feel like dating can get weird this time of year.” Holidays are often catalysts for relationship transitions, and communicating openly about Valentine’s day might precipitate the end of something. If that happens it was coming anyway, sooner or later. ’ you can ask ‘What would be your perfect Valentine’s Day?
If It's Your Birthday As psyched as you are about being in a relationship on your birthday, don't put too much pressure on your newly minted significant other to make the day special.
Remember, it's their first time going through the birthday gauntlet with you, so this one is mostly about setting the tone.
If he or she mentions their upcoming birthday in passing, you should casually ask: "Fun, how are you planning to celebrate?
" The best case scenario is that they say something like "Oh, probably just doing X with my friends," which makes it clear that you won't be really expected to join in or participate—which is fine.The question you should be asking instead is, “What do I want out of Valentine’s day? I’ve been in exactly this situation on Valentine’s day and it sucks because February 14 is a pressure-cooker of expectations. First, don’t assume you have to go big or go traditional (Italian restaurant, wine, roses: wallet-buster). “So if you two are madly in love and fully committed, even after three months, you should spend a little more and get a more personal gift.