Black men think black women dating white men
12-Mar-2020 11:25
While I appreciate some of the nuanced discussion on how race intersects with dating preferences, there’s something quite stinging about reducing the choices we make in romance to just wanting to be white.
As the writer Ta-Nehisi Coates noted in 2010, there’s a real danger of taking something as intensely private as someone’s relationship, marriage, or family, and criticizing it with the same zeal as we would a social institution.
Each time she marries, is she in a different status with her own blackness? Does my partner’s whiteness have any effect on my blackness?
His whiteness hasn’t prevented the microaggressions and presumptions I face daily.
As a black woman who’s with a white man, I can attest that nothing about the situation makes me feel more white.
In fact, I never feel blacker than when I’m the only black person in the room, having dinner with my white in-laws (lovely as they are).
I was also nervous about introducing him to my Somali-Yemeni family.
It wouldn’t have surprised me if they balked: Families forbidding dating outside the clan is a story much older than .
I understand the overarching point of much of this criticism: Portrayal of black or brown characters in popular culture is often terrible.Does dating a white person make you any less black? But it’s a complicated issue, one that British author Zadie Smith (author of ).
