Foster siblings dating
You get permission from the agency for whatever kind of arrangement they want to set up. She will probably be driving by herself by the time she is 17 so will renegotiate rules then.
We haven't had any experience with that yet, though. I monitor the computer with a keystroke recording system (we had a lot of trust issue violations in the beginning but now things are great), so I know what websites she's visiting and who she's talking to.
I say be very strict when it comes to dating and as they show you they can be trusted then you can give them more freedom. The girls are both married to wonderful men and my 19 yr old son is currently dating a fabulous young lady. The girls, who are older, have told me that having the rule in place really helped them avoid the pressure at school. That's when I relied upon our agency's rules to back up mine.
We had a sexually active 15 yr old girl placed with us earlier this year. She hated it, but superficially complied--she was still contacting the 19 yr old she'd been seeing (with bmom's help! I think one of the hardest challenges about foster parenting is taking a teenager that's been living 1 way his or her whole life into a homw with structure and rules we don't mind if A has male friends or goes out once in a while but the last thing she needs at this point is a 2nd child !
We also have issues with her getting a job we all work !
but i have a feeling she's been places where it was ok to sit at home and rely on "goverment help" so we'll see what happens with that !
My big focus is on helping him see things from the female point of view, and always have respect for the girl! Both girls also told us that because they didn't "have" to find a boyfriend they were able to look at the boys in a more critical light and made better choices later on. She'd been having sex with her mom's okay for 3 years.
She needs to know that she can still catch diseases from "impossible to get pregnant" means of sex contact.Honestly, she's still a virgin which is a bit rare for teens (I also teach high school).